Sexual Fantasies are Consciousness Tech

For the first time, we can precisely map how desire works for each individual.

The deVinery Method shows that sexual fantasies are consciousness tech. They change our state of consciousness. You know this is true because you think, feel and act differently when sexually aroused than in your everyday state of mind.

With sexual desire mapping we can de-code exactly how that works for each person. Which is a big deal for anyone working with sexual wellness, AI relationship and intimacy apps, companion AI, dating site apps, sex tech and therapy.

And for anyone wanting to create cultural change that keeps the multi-billion dollar sex tech and sexual wellness industry stuck at the bottleneck created by social media ‘community standards’, lack of access to financial backing, and political pressure created by entitled tantrums and overzealous cancel culture.

Not to mention, sexual desire mapping is a huge deal for anyone trying to have fulfilling hook-ups or keep desire thriving in long-term relationships as well as throughout menopause.

Why? Because for the first time, we can finally understand our turn-ons and show they are surprisingly wholesome. Yes, even those confusing taboo ones.

And because, for the first time in human history, we can finally precisely map each person’s unique erotic wiring. Not just what practical techniques, body types, relationship needs, basic plotlines, and sex acts excite them, but how turn-ons work at the root and how each person’s unique sexual patterning can be decoded and activated.

Futurists take note! You saw it here first!

How sexual fantasies are consciousness tech

Stories of all kinds are consciousness tech. Stories may be make believe, but the effect they have on our bodies, feelings and minds is very real.

To go to the cinema is to be swept into a world we often did not know existed, and we get taken somewhere inside ourselves. A good book or a movie will take us on an emotional roller coaster ride, and our bodies will respond with goosebumps, blushes, shivers, swoons and euphoric heart swells. By the time the credits roll, our mood is changed, and maybe even our beliefs too.

The corporate world knows the power of stories and pours hundreds of billions of dollars into branding stories, marketing stories, and stories that shape the rise and fall of culture and empires.

The deVinery Method shows that sexual fantasies are specific forms of concentrated stories without the plotline, story arch, fluff and filler. They just cut to the chase and go straight to the beneath-the-surface engine of story that ignites and excites us. And more crucially the part that triggers changes in our consciousness. That is, sexual fantasies convince our ego guards to let go of our inhibitions so we can lose ourselves in the moment.

It goes like this:

To enter the experience of love, the flow state of play, or the freedom of pure pleasure, we must surrender.

But here’s the catch. Our egos always resist the vulnerability of surrender. Yes, even the healthiest of egos. That is what they are built to do.

Drawing on neuroscience, psychedelic and consciousness studies, and thousands of real-world case studies, I show that sexual fantasies are concentrated psychological formulas that contain the exact process of letting go. They create varying degrees of ego dissolution not unlike states created by meditation, psychedelics and hypnosis.

They are stories of our ego’s resistance and our desire’s magnetic pull towards dissolving into the moment. They are story maps designed by our own minds to overcome our resistance to surrendering in the moment of pleasure and/or intimacy. They change our physical bodies by arousing them, ignite our emotions, and shift the way we think. They open us up to the kinds of states of consciousness capable of a profound array of pleasure and intimacy connections.

To put it in everyday relatable terms, sexual fantasies are maps that bring us home to ourselves and each other by tricking our ego guards into standing down, allowing us to enter the experience fully unguarded, without holding back from the pleasure of that moment. This is true whether your goal for having sex is fun, freedom or romance.

Thinking of a non sexual parallel can help. Remember how you feel when you want to dance at a party, but there's no one on the dance floor yet. You might feel completely shy or only a bit self-conscious. That feeling is your ego guards (default mode network) protecting your sense of self and your dignity. You want to just let go and dance like no one’s watching, but you’re not quite sure how to get into that zone yet.

Most people will wait until someone else goes first! After all, we are hard-wired to want to belong to the group and fear rejection. When there are enough people on the dance floor, the peer pressure is reversed, and joining in becomes a way of belonging. However, the first person to shake their booty has to risk group disapproval by doing something that the group is not currently doing. But nothing is going to happen if someone doesn’t break the ice.

The person who goes first might appear to be fully self-confident to others, but even if they are not conscious of it themselves, they have drawn on a little fantasy to give themselves the confidence they need.

They have to include their ego’s fears and counter them with their desires. (The deVinery Method calls this the poisons and the antidote).

This includes egoic fears about their social status, self-worth and self-identity.

This might look like, initially wondering if their “bum looks big in this”, checking their lipstick and imagining what other people will think of their dance moves. “Will others find me attractive?” Notice how this internal dialogue reveals uncertainty about other people’s opinions and concern about evoking the wrong reactions in others.

The would-be dancer might then flip the script by fantasising that everyone will be impressed by their self-confidence to be the first one to lose their inhibitions. They might even draw on selective confidence-boosting memories (which are a form of fantasy) when people did indeed respond positively to their past dance exhibitionism. They might focus on moments when others were magnetically drawn to them because they were gutsy enough to show their sexy moves first. Or how their love rival is jealous of their smooth dance moves. They fantasise that being the party animal will make other people attracted to them.

The fear of other people’s judgment was alchemised into a source of arousal for them!

Poison + Antidote = Ego dissolution. (The perfect conditions for losing ourselves in the moment.)

This mirrors the exact process that our sexual fantasies create for us. Sexual fantasies are genius stories designed to create varying degrees of ego dissolution.

The deVinery Method shows you exactly how to hear, understand and follow these inbuilt maps.

To arousal.

To sexual flow state. Play, freedom and pleasure.

To an array of profound erotic states of consciousness including but not limited to sub space, top space, ecstatic tantric states.

To astonishing love for ourselves and each other.

And sometimes all the way to full ego dissolution experiences of feeling like we have become One with All That Is.

This is not some woo theory. This is how human consciousness works. These Oneness or unity states are not only discussed throughout human history and across cultures, but are now well-documented in neuroscience and psychedelic consciousness studies.

Why the deVinery Method is a Paradigm Shift and What We Can Do with It.

The deVinery Method was developed by me, Artemisia de Vine. I don’t offer vague, waffly feel-good or pathologising therapy-centric theories, or rehash tantra and Jungian shadow work. I don’t try to explain our erotic intelligence through psycho-social-bio lens or reduce our taboos to trauma. I offer a whole new lens. The lens of how stories are a form of consciousness technology.

And this part is important. I show how sexual fantasies work to change our state of consciousness before our childhoods and our cultural pressures shaped us. I break down the mechanics at the root of how consciousness works. This works universally and is a part of being normal, healthy humans.

I then show how we can map each person’s individual version of this universal mechanism.

(Asexual people might experience this as a non sexualised flow state, ecstasy or subspace, but the mechanism is still the same).

Why does sexual desire mapping matter to sex tech, AI and therapy?

The deVinery Method is an erotic intelligence model that makes it possible for us to actually break down each person’s sexual fantasies and map the hidden engine underneath them that makes them work.

For the first time in human history, we can precisely map what turns each individual on and apply it to our real-world sex lives.

Big claim, I know. But I can back it up.

It’s something I have already successfully taught sexologists, sex educators, doctors, therapists, religious and community leaders, spiritual sex practitioners, as well as curious couples. It is verifiable, repeatable, and it works.

Although you will still need training to apply this, I generously share how this works in my upcoming book ‘The Spirituality of Smut: The surprising wisdom of sexual fantasies’. I show exactly how I figured it out when I was being paid to become the fantasy of thousands of people during my 12-year stint as a sex worker and professional dominatrix. I applied my sexology studies and anthropology major to an unofficial ethnography. I tested it on thousands of people, in real time, in the flesh.

And it just kept working. Again and again and again.

Clients who thought they just came for the boobs kept discovering profound erotic states of ego dissolution.

Whether they simply felt far more sexually satisfied because they dropped deeper into the experience of pleasure and play, or they finally let their inbuilt map take them where it had been trying to take them all along, they consistently felt their experiences in The deVinery were a peak experience of their life. If not the peak experience.

Unprompted they’d say things like, “Wow, what even is this? I didn’t know I could feel this way! This feels like the real me. This feels like what I have unconsciously been looking for my whole life!”

And, “I feel incredible! What even is this feeling? Like I am on MDMA and psychedelics! Only better, because there are no hallucinations. This is so grounded and very, very real!”

Learning how to understand your sexual fantasies has a huge positive impact on our personal lives, both reducing harm from misunderstandings and helping us access profound, real-world sexual satisfaction.

It even has the potential to be applied to consciousness studies, help us access our fuller human consciousness potential and detangle conundrums anywhere human desire exists.

But The deVinery Method unlocks more than that!

How this applies to AI, dating sites and real-world therapy.

For good or for ill, millions of people are turning to AI to navigate their relationships. They ask questions about how to get the spark back, what that text on Tinder meant, and how to reply, as well as how to find out what someone else wants in bed. Hell, some people are even using AI to back them up in arguments with their spouse!

But AI doesn’t understand sex because:

1. Tech developers get their info from outdated therapist models, porn click data and mood tracking. None of which understand how the erotic mind works at the root.

2. Tech companies have their hands tied behind their backs by FOSTA SESTA and by fear of social backlash. AI is hampered by “community standards” that treat all sex with the same broad brush. They lack the ability to understand sex in context so treat all sexual expressions, be they appropriate or inappropriate, as suspicious and push the whole sex conversation back underground.

Imagine if community standards could be navigated with respect and nuance that allowed us to be in an honest and healthy relationship with our sexuality.

Imagine if therapy AI assistants could genuinely help you navigate intimacy? Helping you have the conversations that create genuine fulfilment?

And could pinpoint exactly what is needed to keep desire thriving in long-term relationships. No vague advice on how to spice things up with distance, novelty and role play. Specific advice on the exact things that generate exciting friction for each person.

Imagine if AI assistance on dating sites like Tinder could finally help you track what you actually want during that hook-up? And help you get past that awkward conversation and communicate it with each other! I don’t just mean the consent conversation and asking for specific kinds of sex acts and kinks. I mean knowing why and how those sex acts and kinks are exciting and being able to use that knowledge in an unlimited variety of fun ways that scratch the real itch.

What if hook-up sex was finally as satisfying as we fantasised it would be when we were full of dopamine from feverishly swiping left and right?

What if understanding our turn-ons gave women the permission slip they needed to understand and focus on their own pleasure?

What if both the left and the right of politics could get into bed with this? Because what we feared about our taboo desires suddenly makes sense, and can be channelled in ways that keep everyone safe and satisfied.

Imagine the halo effect of aligning your brand or app with the method that can finally make significant headway in achieving all that?

If your mind just erupted with ideas of how this can be applied, then find out more about learning, licensing and sponsorship opportunities at deVineryMethod.com

P.S. Find out more about the three paradoxes inherent to sexual desire that reveal the specifics of each person’s unique sexual map.

If I have just given you the source code, why do you still need me?

It’s tempting to think you’ve got it from this page. But unless the architecture lives in you, you’ll end up with the shell, not the spell.

​The concepts are powerful, but there is more to this theory and the results come from the method. I’ve spent 30 years living, breathing and refining every nuance of this. If you try to reconstruct it without the method, it’ll fall flat. Like trying to cook from a perfume label instead of the recipe.

Meanwhile, those who’ve licensed the method and trained directly with me will already be launching their offerings and surfing the halo effect of the cultural-level permission slip created by my upcoming book The Spirituality of Smut: The surprising wisdom of sexual fantasies.

​If you want the original handbag, and not the embarrassing knock-off, let’s talk.

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